In the Wake of the Nova Scotia Murders A Call to Address Violence Against Women and Girls - theHumm May 2020
In the Wake of the Nova Scotia Murders A Call to Address Violence Against Women and Girls - theHumm May 2020
A number of Ontario anti-violence shelters and advocates are jointly calling on public officials to address violence against women and girls as the key inciting factor in the recent mass murders in Nova Scotia. The shelters, including Kingston Interval House, Lanark County Interval House and North York Women’s Shelter express deep condolences to all those affected. “We grieve this unimaginable tragedy alongside the entire country and know that healing will be long and painful.”
This weekend brought back stark memories of another Canadian mass murder. “Exactly two years ago, I was writing a heartbreakingly and terrifyingly similar press release for another anti-woman mass murder — the Toronto Van Attacks in North York — it makes me sick to have to draft one again,” says Mohini Datta-Ray, Executive Director of North York Women’s Shelter. In that mass murder, the attacker took inspiration from the notoriously and highly misogynist online “Incel” or “involuntarily celibate” culture. “We stand in solidarity with all of Nova Scotia and particularly those experiencing both this extreme expression and more ‘everyday’ gender-based violence. The pain is unimaginable.”
Calling the Nova Scotia murders “a horrifying tragedy”, Erin Lee, the Executive Director of Lanark County Interval House, says: “as leaders dealing in gender based violence, especially for us in rural and remote communities, we were sadly unsurprised that intimate partner violence against a woman turned out to be the catalyst for this rampage; we pretty much expected it”. There is strong evidence that the Nova Scotian attacker was motivated by his rage against his ex-girlfriend and her new partner.
“What happened on Monday seems beyond comprehension,” adds Pam Havery, Executive Director of Kingston Interval House, “but it follows a highly disturbing logic of mass murders, where domestic or family violence against women are shown to be at the root of almost all of them. We saw that to be true in Pulse Nightclub, Orlando, Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, First Baptist Church, Toronto Van Attacks and Ecole Polytechnique. If we as a community are too afraid, unwilling or overwhelmed to expose, resist and address this for what it is, it only gets more oxygen to grow and thrive.”
As advocates and leaders who see the horrific impact of violence against women, girls and trans communities every single day call for change, they call on all three levels of government to take a gender lens in all of their budgets and policies. “We call for real, lasting investment in effective anti-gender-based violence education for men and boys. And we call for comprehensive, evidence-based programs that support the safety, wellbeing and empowerment of women, girls and trans communities. As this weekend’s heartbreaking events tell us, the urgency is incredibly high,” say the anti-violence experts.
According to long-term advocate and management consultant Beth Jordan of Adobe Consulting Services, “although moments of such terror can seem freak or fringe, they need to be understood as an extreme expression of a threatening, violent gender dynamic that is much more everyday than most of us like to admit. It’s moments like this that present us an opportunity to truly commit to care of one another; to support survivors of violence and their families and to invest in new ways of holistic care across the system that prevent the spread of hateful politics while empowering whole communities.”
Recent data has shown that, in Canada, every six days a woman is murdered as a result of gender-based violence. The ongoing COVID-19 pandemic conditions have shown to increase rates of domestic violence against women and girls sharply worldwide. Women’s shelters say that they are “bracing themselves” for what is to come and need greater commitment and support to meet the increased needs of survivors particularly during this time. “Violence against women services are woefully inadequate in this country at the best of times,” says Datta-Ray. “With the added dynamic of lockdowns and social distancing, ability, race and class inequity, women are going to die at the hands of their families and intimate partners if all three levels of government don’t take serious action that puts survivors first”.
Submitted by Kingston Interval House, Lanark County Interval House, North York Women’s Shelter and Adobe Consulting Services
A Message from the Lanark County Interval House:
At this time of uncertainty, we continue to focus on our mandate to end violence against women and their children. We work in solidarity with you and our colleagues across the nation. Know we appreciate your support and donations especially at this most challenging time in our community and across the world. Violence doesn’t pause and risk for many has and continues to increase. Please be the disruption that a neighbour, friend or family member might need. See it, name it and then we can change it. Know our service and crisis line remain open 24/7. One of our dedicated staff are just a phone call away at 613–257–5960.
As we navigate how to stay safe and healthy during this uncertain time called COVID, the challenge of staying safe is even more so when living in a violent home. Women are faced with a potential increase in their violence during isolation due to stresses within the house caused by financial concerns, increased use of substances, children being at home and the uncertainty of what tomorrow will bring. We know that control plays a large role within violent relationships and when there is a perceived loss of control, an abuser will hold on tight to what they feel they do have control over; their partner and children. Seeking help and support becomes almost impossible as we are directed to stay in our homes. Sneaking out of the home to make a phone call may put a victim at higher risk.
Here are resources that are still available given the current COVID-19 restrictions:
Emergency Shelter Services
The crisis line remains open 24/7. We continue to offer support to women impacted by violence, whether they choose to leave or remain in the situation. With regards to admission, we need to speak to the woman, assess her situation as per our normal procedures, but have recently implemented an additional screening tool due to COVID. Priority of admission is always Lanark County women. Should a family need admission, a period of isolation may be required depending on their situation.
Community Support Services
Our community support team is reaching out to isolated clients to ensure safety planning, supplies and needs are responded to.
Counselling support will remain as scheduled, but we have implemented offsite tools to facilitate and maintain community-based supports to all clients. We keep connected to our local community resources to offer appropriate referral and support specific to the impacts of COVID (ie foodbank, financial support links etc)
What We Can Do
And here’s how we as a community can support those we believe to be in a dangerous/abusive situation:
We as a community need to be mindful of the increased risks faced by women and children living in violent homes. Continue to reach out being mindful of your own physical safety through social distancing. Make eye contact whenever possible and if this is someone you know, watch for noticable changes in her behaviour. If a victim of violence is confiding in you, it is important to offer her resources and options. The LCIHCS 24hr crisis line is a good place to start. Callers remain anonymous if that is what they want or need to stay safe. Helping her make a plan to stay as safe as possible is important and be ready to listen and believe her.
Stay well, stay safe and stay connected. If you would like to donate to Lanark County Interval House, please visit lcih.org/donate-to-lanark-county-interval-house
The Return of the Victory Garden: an Interview with Ed Lawrence - theHumm May 2020
theHumm is reaching out to members of our Ottawa Valley community to ask how they are finding ways to use their gifts in these challenging times. Today’s subject is Ed Lawrence, CBC Radio’s gardening guru. We emailed Ed to find out what he’s been up to, and what advice he has for novice gardeners who may want to try their hand at growing their own veggies this year.
theHumm: I imagine you have had fewer speaking engagements than usual this spring — what ha......
Poplar - theHumm May 2020
By Susie Osler
A Poplar round supports my weight. Its dying body lies here, sprawling in pieces around me. Rings of honey-coloured carbon circle in around dark, decaying heartwood that Woodpeckers have already begun to investigate in search of larvae. We sit here together, Poplar and I, on the tenuous, thin layer of unfolding life that is happening between our bodies and the eons of sand lying beneath us.
An accumulation of debris has fallen over decades — an offering to the Earth from the sanctuary of other Po......
The Great Veggie Grow-Off is a GO! - theHumm May 2020
The Great Veggie Grow-Off, a project of the Neighbourhood Tomato Community Gardens, is an annual challenge between the nine communities of Lanark County and Smiths Falls to engage more citizens in growing healthy local food at home or in community garden beds — all with an eye to bolstering healthy food donations to our local food banks. This friendly challenge pits encourages communities to see which can grow the most food to donate, so the true winners each year are the food banks......
Calling All Novice Vegetable Gardeners - theHumm May 2020
By David Hinks
What is your reason for wanting to start a vegetable garden? You have found that grocery stores have lots of empty shelves? You fear that global supply chains are breaking down and trucks will not be able to cross the border? You’ve always wanted to try growing vegetables and now you have the time to try it? You’re desperately looking for a project to keep the kids busy?
The beauty of starting a vegetable garden is that there is no downside — even if there are no “dystopian-type” break......
Give Moms a (Coffee) Break! - theHumm May 2020
By Sarah Kerr
Well, to be honest, I didn’t think I had it in me. We recently moved back to the Valley from downtown Toronto, and while I saw all these amazing homeschool moms, and was often evangelized by them about how I should consider it, I always thought “bless your heart — but there’s no f-ing way I could do that without losing my mind!”
Six weeks into homeschooling, I have to say: I know myself well. My adrenaline is running out. I’ve tried ALL the coping mechanisms for my personality (Enneagram Type 7) ......
Playful May - theHumm May 2020
By Nicki Gallo
The first time I wrote a love letter to a stranger I felt giddy with secrecy and curiosity. “You are a unique and sparkly human. Thank you for shining your light.” I folded it up and left it on the back of the seat in front of me and got off at my stop.
The love note wasn’t directed at anyone in particular and I will never know if someone discovered that little mystery letter on the back of a train seat. And that’s ok. It was an experiment in play. The experience left me feeling vulner......
Reflecting on Earth Day 2020 - theHumm May 2020
By Rob Riendeau
As I write this, it is the 50th annual Earth Day. And as with most things these days, the distorting lens of the current pandemic is making me examine the day from an entirely new perspective.
Up to now, the challenges of respecting the Earth by minimizing our impact on the planet and our co-habitant species of plants and animals seemed impossible. Ideas and innovations died as soon as they were uttered, faced with the impracticality of getting from here to there. Grand announcements of bo......
Hygge Your Home! Turning Your Space into a Calming, Comfortable Sanctuary - theHumm May 2020
One morning a few weeks back I ordered a book from the wonderful indie bookstore two blocks from my home. I was feeling sad and scared, lonely and anxious. Books often calm my nerves. So I chose one I thought might bring me some comfort. By 5pm the book — The Little Book of Hygge by Meik Wiking — was in my mailbox and it was beautiful just to look at, the cover art joyful and comforting. I plunked down on my couch and began reading, in short spurts.
Page after page I was char......
The Best Gift - theHumm May 2020
By Glenda Jones
Ah, the allure of spring! The desire to drop everything and play hooky, leave all the “have-tos” and indulge in a “want to”, even if for only one afternoon when the sun is warm on your back, and all the winter wear is flapping on the clothes line. We’re supposed to feel guilty about doing this.
However, here we are in playing hooky mode, with days stretching out for who knows how long. Did we realize that we were being handed the gift of time without the necessity of guilt? For most......
Takeout, Take 1: Eataria Unlimited - theHumm May 2020
By Sebastian Weetabix
BC (Before Covid), Weetabix’ main topic was restaurants, many of which have been severely impacted by the necessary restrictions of social distancing. This is a gentle way of saying that forced changes to an established business model can be catastrophic. Our last article (and first in the time of social distancing) advocated ordering takeout but was short on specific recommendations. We will now start to address these and other related matters in the upper part of our food chain.
I......
Be Happy — Go Play in the Dirt! - theHumm May 2020
By Sally Hansen
Dirt as an antidepressant? Ever since 2007 researchers continue to confirm that there is a natural antidepressant in soil. Ask any gardener – dirt makes you happy.
This is great news. Growing research suggests that simply playing in the dirt may provide some of the same benefits as Prozac or other pharmaceutical antidepressants, without side effects or the danger of chemical dependency. Microbes naturally found in soil consistently demonstrate a positive link with mammalian he......
What a Time to be a Travel Advisor! - theHumm May 2020
By Emma Moxley
March began like any normal month. I advertised in the community and theHumm that I would be presenting a “Let’s Talk Travel” seminar on March 31 at the local library with my partner from Royal Irish Tours. Snowbirds were already warm down South, and some were en route to long-term stays in Europe — Spain and Portugal being typical hotspots.
We had heard about an outbreak in China, something we would soon become all too familiar with called COVID-19. But we were far removed fr......
The Community Centre without Walls - theHumm May 2020
The North Lanark Community Health Centre (NLCHC) and PEP Seniors Therapeutic Centre (PEP) are teaming up to help area seniors, and adults living with disabilities, stay connected through a new telephone-based group programming venture called the “Community Centre Without Walls – Lanark County”. PEP and the NLCHC have a lot of experience in delivering in-person group programs for seniors. Collectively they have served hundreds of older adults and seniors each year through their programs, including the......
In the Wake of the Nova Scotia Murders A Call to Address Violence Against Women and Girls - theHumm May 2020
A number of Ontario anti-violence shelters and advocates are jointly calling on public officials to address violence against women and girls as the key inciting factor in the recent mass murders in Nova Scotia. The shelters, including Kingston Interval House, Lanark County Interval House and North York Women’s Shelter express deep condolences to all those affected. “We grieve this unimaginable tragedy alongside the entire country and know that healing will be long and painful.”
This weekend br......
COVID-19 Gives Us Grief Dealing with Ambiguous Losses - theHumm May 2020
By Barbara Carroll
As we move through the COVID-19 pandemic we face multiple losses and experience the range of emotions of grief: anxiety, fear, sadness, despair, anger, loneliness, disappointment, hopelessness and regret. We each have our own losses, and we have all lost things such as peace of mind, freedom, independence, control over much of our lives, physical contact and a sense of safety. Well, we can say, COVID-19 is temporary and when it is over life will return to normal. That may be, but we are not there yet,......
Show MVFN What’s in Your Backyard this Spring! - theHumm May 2020
The Mississippi Valley Field Naturalists are launching a Lanark County backyard nature discovery project on iNaturalist. This will be a friendly challenge to see who can make the most observations of nature, find the most species, and engage the most people during the event. As an extra bonus, all the nature observation data that you post to iNaturalist contributes to the biodiversity record of Lanark County and citizen science in g......
CFUW 2020 Education Awards Application Deadline Extended to May 31 - theHumm May 2020
By the CFUW Perth and District Education Awards Committee
The Canadian Federation of University Women (CFUW) Perth and District is now inviting applications for financial assistance from women in our community who are pursuing post-secondary education. Eligibility is subject to acceptance in a recognized post-secondary program of study and is based on financial need. Applicants must reside in the region of Perth and District, but the educational institution can be anywhere in Canada.
In the rapidly evolving situation regarding COVID-19, CFUW ......
An Inspirational Escape - theHumm May 2020
The Rideau Lakes Artists Association’s annual Art show “Paint the Summer” has been cancelled this year due to COVID-19, so instead they will be hosting a virtual show/sale called “An Inspirational Escape”.
Starting in early May their talented and diverse artists will showcase their art on Facebook Facebook.com/RideauLakeartists and Instagram Instagram.com/rid......
Attention Students Interested in the Natural Environment - theHumm May 2020
The application deadline for the 2020 Cliff Bennett Nature Bursary Awards is Monday, June 1. The Mississippi Valley Field Naturalists (MVFN) are looking forward to awarding the annual Cliff Bennett Nature Bursary to the environmental leaders of tomorrow!
The MVFN is seeking graduating high school students who want to “make a difference” in meeting the environmental challenges of the future. The Cliff Bennett Nature Bursary is offered annually to assist students who will pursue ......
United by our Vulnerability - theHumm May 2020
By Helen Antebi
“Let this COVID-19 crisis be a lesson to us all in the power of collective vulnerability. We are witnessing and expressing large-scale humility, generosity and compassion most of us have not previously seen.”
This crisis of the virus has and should be a forever-lesson in vulnerability. If we have learned one thing we have in common in this time, it is that we all do not know. Our leaders do not know, parents, friends, siblings, peers do not know. We cannot answer definitively when this ......
On This Month’s Cover - theHumm May 2020
A veritable garden of art!
(clockwise from top left)
Claire Jacobs, clairejfineart.com
Sally Hansen, ...more
Apr 27 Festival of the Maples
Apr 27 The Moth Project
May 4 - 5 Spring Fine Art Show
May 4 - 5 Spring Fine Art Show
May 4 Outskirts
May 5 Music at Mera: The Andrew Collins Trio
May 11 - 12 Art in the Attic
May 11 Engelbert Humperdinck & Tom Jones Tribute
May 16 MMLT Talk & AGM
May 24 Birds of a Feather
- IS THIS A PROTEST?
- A Classic Whodunnit Agatha Christie’s Black Coffee at Studio Theatre
- Readers, Writers, and Poets
- Celebrate Indigenous Culture in CP
- Celebrate the ClassicsWith the Arnprior Choir
- 4F Auction Concoction Food, Fun, Fashion & Favourites
- Cheerfully Made Spring Market
- Electrify to Decarbonize Lanark
- Volunteer Forum
- Frankenstein Comes to The Station Theatre
