United by our Vulnerability - theHumm May 2020
United by our Vulnerability - theHumm May 2020
By Helen Antebi
“Let this COVID-19 crisis be a lesson to us all in the power of collective vulnerability. We are witnessing and expressing large-scale humility, generosity and compassion most of us have not previously seen.”
This crisis of the virus has and should be a forever-lesson in vulnerability. If we have learned one thing we have in common in this time, it is that we all do not know. Our leaders do not know, parents, friends, siblings, peers do not know. We cannot answer definitively when this will be over or how many lives will be affected, and we cannot predict how our economy or social, health and education programs will function under new emergent conditions.
This crisis has stripped even the most experienced scientists, analysts, economists and health experts of their ability to confidently predict.
We are all in the same ignorance boat. We paddle madly at times when we think we see shore: solid ground in the form of a vaccine! Then we dip into disappointment and even grief when we learn it was a mirage. We paddle madly again when a new perceived horizon emerges, new hope of tests and cures; then we dip into another low when we get to the touted “cure” spot but there is no shore, no ability to land and relax in sight.
A little exhausted, many of us settle into a slower paddle or even a holding pattern, and a resignation that we are on an uncharted course. We find rhythm, productivity and flow in spite of not knowing.
We are all in transitions and changes, some going through more difficulties than others. Many of us are cycling through the William Bridges transition model and not necessarily in the order it is presented! (1- grief at losing touch, income or routine; 2- reflection as we contemplate our situations — the pros and cons and the disbelief of how quickly and dramatically our worlds have altered; 3- we move to new beginnings often at micro levels when we learn a new technology or undertake a new recipe or home project.) We are going through mood shifts, some more extreme than others, and some of us more frequently than others.
We need support one day and the next we can be a cheerleader. We need understanding the following day and to be left alone the day after that. Our reactions and responses can be as volatile as the crisis we find ourselves coping with. We are at risk of mirroring our situation, and at the mercy of the ups and downs of the media we consume. We feel vulnerable when we perceive a loss of control, we seek out control through information, we need to feel assured.
In this reality, the best we can strive for is some measure of predictability in our own worlds. Creating a new rhythm that suits us, that keeps us on an even keel, can help us to create a less volatile “inner thought world” too. Recreating some measure of predictability for our work, nutrition, activity level, exercise and relationships can give us back some of the normalcy and order our brains crave. Rhythm (not necessarily routine) can reduce anxiety and feelings of under-performance, of lower productivity than we are accustomed to.
With a wee bit of a sense of control and predictability back in our lives, albeit on a smaller scale, our mood shifts may become less dramatic; we will be a little calmer in the boat and better able to stay the course. We will not need to access overburdened health facilities, and — above all — our ability to support others will increase.
Looking after both your physical and mental health in a time of crisis has a ripple effect on others. Your energy will be grounding and calming, and you’ll be strong enough to extend your oar out to someone who needs an anchor. Vulnerability is uniting us in ways we never imagined. Know that every little bit you do to help yourself in a crisis goes a long way.
— Helen Antebi is a Certified Professional Coach, assisting leaders, organizations and business owners helenantebi.com
The Return of the Victory Garden: an Interview with Ed Lawrence - theHumm May 2020
theHumm is reaching out to members of our Ottawa Valley community to ask how they are finding ways to use their gifts in these challenging times. Today’s subject is Ed Lawrence, CBC Radio’s gardening guru. We emailed Ed to find out what he’s been up to, and what advice he has for novice gardeners who may want to try their hand at growing their own veggies this year.
theHumm: I imagine you have had fewer speaking engagements than usual this spring — what ha......
Poplar - theHumm May 2020
By Susie Osler
A Poplar round supports my weight. Its dying body lies here, sprawling in pieces around me. Rings of honey-coloured carbon circle in around dark, decaying heartwood that Woodpeckers have already begun to investigate in search of larvae. We sit here together, Poplar and I, on the tenuous, thin layer of unfolding life that is happening between our bodies and the eons of sand lying beneath us.
An accumulation of debris has fallen over decades — an offering to the Earth from the sanctuary of other Po......
The Great Veggie Grow-Off is a GO! - theHumm May 2020
The Great Veggie Grow-Off, a project of the Neighbourhood Tomato Community Gardens, is an annual challenge between the nine communities of Lanark County and Smiths Falls to engage more citizens in growing healthy local food at home or in community garden beds — all with an eye to bolstering healthy food donations to our local food banks. This friendly challenge pits encourages communities to see which can grow the most food to donate, so the true winners each year are the food banks......
Calling All Novice Vegetable Gardeners - theHumm May 2020
By David Hinks
What is your reason for wanting to start a vegetable garden? You have found that grocery stores have lots of empty shelves? You fear that global supply chains are breaking down and trucks will not be able to cross the border? You’ve always wanted to try growing vegetables and now you have the time to try it? You’re desperately looking for a project to keep the kids busy?
The beauty of starting a vegetable garden is that there is no downside — even if there are no “dystopian-type” break......
Give Moms a (Coffee) Break! - theHumm May 2020
By Sarah Kerr
Well, to be honest, I didn’t think I had it in me. We recently moved back to the Valley from downtown Toronto, and while I saw all these amazing homeschool moms, and was often evangelized by them about how I should consider it, I always thought “bless your heart — but there’s no f-ing way I could do that without losing my mind!”
Six weeks into homeschooling, I have to say: I know myself well. My adrenaline is running out. I’ve tried ALL the coping mechanisms for my personality (Enneagram Type 7) ......
Playful May - theHumm May 2020
By Nicki Gallo
The first time I wrote a love letter to a stranger I felt giddy with secrecy and curiosity. “You are a unique and sparkly human. Thank you for shining your light.” I folded it up and left it on the back of the seat in front of me and got off at my stop.
The love note wasn’t directed at anyone in particular and I will never know if someone discovered that little mystery letter on the back of a train seat. And that’s ok. It was an experiment in play. The experience left me feeling vulner......
Reflecting on Earth Day 2020 - theHumm May 2020
By Rob Riendeau
As I write this, it is the 50th annual Earth Day. And as with most things these days, the distorting lens of the current pandemic is making me examine the day from an entirely new perspective.
Up to now, the challenges of respecting the Earth by minimizing our impact on the planet and our co-habitant species of plants and animals seemed impossible. Ideas and innovations died as soon as they were uttered, faced with the impracticality of getting from here to there. Grand announcements of bo......
Hygge Your Home! Turning Your Space into a Calming, Comfortable Sanctuary - theHumm May 2020
One morning a few weeks back I ordered a book from the wonderful indie bookstore two blocks from my home. I was feeling sad and scared, lonely and anxious. Books often calm my nerves. So I chose one I thought might bring me some comfort. By 5pm the book — The Little Book of Hygge by Meik Wiking — was in my mailbox and it was beautiful just to look at, the cover art joyful and comforting. I plunked down on my couch and began reading, in short spurts.
Page after page I was char......
The Best Gift - theHumm May 2020
By Glenda Jones
Ah, the allure of spring! The desire to drop everything and play hooky, leave all the “have-tos” and indulge in a “want to”, even if for only one afternoon when the sun is warm on your back, and all the winter wear is flapping on the clothes line. We’re supposed to feel guilty about doing this.
However, here we are in playing hooky mode, with days stretching out for who knows how long. Did we realize that we were being handed the gift of time without the necessity of guilt? For most......
Takeout, Take 1: Eataria Unlimited - theHumm May 2020
By Sebastian Weetabix
BC (Before Covid), Weetabix’ main topic was restaurants, many of which have been severely impacted by the necessary restrictions of social distancing. This is a gentle way of saying that forced changes to an established business model can be catastrophic. Our last article (and first in the time of social distancing) advocated ordering takeout but was short on specific recommendations. We will now start to address these and other related matters in the upper part of our food chain.
I......
Be Happy — Go Play in the Dirt! - theHumm May 2020
By Sally Hansen
Dirt as an antidepressant? Ever since 2007 researchers continue to confirm that there is a natural antidepressant in soil. Ask any gardener – dirt makes you happy.
This is great news. Growing research suggests that simply playing in the dirt may provide some of the same benefits as Prozac or other pharmaceutical antidepressants, without side effects or the danger of chemical dependency. Microbes naturally found in soil consistently demonstrate a positive link with mammalian he......
What a Time to be a Travel Advisor! - theHumm May 2020
By Emma Moxley
March began like any normal month. I advertised in the community and theHumm that I would be presenting a “Let’s Talk Travel” seminar on March 31 at the local library with my partner from Royal Irish Tours. Snowbirds were already warm down South, and some were en route to long-term stays in Europe — Spain and Portugal being typical hotspots.
We had heard about an outbreak in China, something we would soon become all too familiar with called COVID-19. But we were far removed fr......
The Community Centre without Walls - theHumm May 2020
The North Lanark Community Health Centre (NLCHC) and PEP Seniors Therapeutic Centre (PEP) are teaming up to help area seniors, and adults living with disabilities, stay connected through a new telephone-based group programming venture called the “Community Centre Without Walls – Lanark County”. PEP and the NLCHC have a lot of experience in delivering in-person group programs for seniors. Collectively they have served hundreds of older adults and seniors each year through their programs, including the......
In the Wake of the Nova Scotia Murders A Call to Address Violence Against Women and Girls - theHumm May 2020
A number of Ontario anti-violence shelters and advocates are jointly calling on public officials to address violence against women and girls as the key inciting factor in the recent mass murders in Nova Scotia. The shelters, including Kingston Interval House, Lanark County Interval House and North York Women’s Shelter express deep condolences to all those affected. “We grieve this unimaginable tragedy alongside the entire country and know that healing will be long and painful.”
This weekend br......
COVID-19 Gives Us Grief Dealing with Ambiguous Losses - theHumm May 2020
By Barbara Carroll
As we move through the COVID-19 pandemic we face multiple losses and experience the range of emotions of grief: anxiety, fear, sadness, despair, anger, loneliness, disappointment, hopelessness and regret. We each have our own losses, and we have all lost things such as peace of mind, freedom, independence, control over much of our lives, physical contact and a sense of safety. Well, we can say, COVID-19 is temporary and when it is over life will return to normal. That may be, but we are not there yet,......
Show MVFN What’s in Your Backyard this Spring! - theHumm May 2020
The Mississippi Valley Field Naturalists are launching a Lanark County backyard nature discovery project on iNaturalist. This will be a friendly challenge to see who can make the most observations of nature, find the most species, and engage the most people during the event. As an extra bonus, all the nature observation data that you post to iNaturalist contributes to the biodiversity record of Lanark County and citizen science in g......
CFUW 2020 Education Awards Application Deadline Extended to May 31 - theHumm May 2020
By the CFUW Perth and District Education Awards Committee
The Canadian Federation of University Women (CFUW) Perth and District is now inviting applications for financial assistance from women in our community who are pursuing post-secondary education. Eligibility is subject to acceptance in a recognized post-secondary program of study and is based on financial need. Applicants must reside in the region of Perth and District, but the educational institution can be anywhere in Canada.
In the rapidly evolving situation regarding COVID-19, CFUW ......
An Inspirational Escape - theHumm May 2020
The Rideau Lakes Artists Association’s annual Art show “Paint the Summer” has been cancelled this year due to COVID-19, so instead they will be hosting a virtual show/sale called “An Inspirational Escape”.
Starting in early May their talented and diverse artists will showcase their art on Facebook Facebook.com/RideauLakeartists and Instagram Instagram.com/rid......
Attention Students Interested in the Natural Environment - theHumm May 2020
The application deadline for the 2020 Cliff Bennett Nature Bursary Awards is Monday, June 1. The Mississippi Valley Field Naturalists (MVFN) are looking forward to awarding the annual Cliff Bennett Nature Bursary to the environmental leaders of tomorrow!
The MVFN is seeking graduating high school students who want to “make a difference” in meeting the environmental challenges of the future. The Cliff Bennett Nature Bursary is offered annually to assist students who will pursue ......
United by our Vulnerability - theHumm May 2020
By Helen Antebi
“Let this COVID-19 crisis be a lesson to us all in the power of collective vulnerability. We are witnessing and expressing large-scale humility, generosity and compassion most of us have not previously seen.”
This crisis of the virus has and should be a forever-lesson in vulnerability. If we have learned one thing we have in common in this time, it is that we all do not know. Our leaders do not know, parents, friends, siblings, peers do not know. We cannot answer definitively when this ......
On This Month’s Cover - theHumm May 2020
A veritable garden of art!
(clockwise from top left)
Claire Jacobs, clairejfineart.com
Sally Hansen, ...more
Oct 12 Jason Kent
Oct 12 - 13 Crown & Pumpkin Studio Tour
Oct 12 - 13 Expressions of Art
Oct 18 Evan + Ron
Oct 19 Amanda Keeley Trio
Oct 19 - Nov 30 The Second Wife’s Story -- Matheson Housewarming Party
Oct 19 - 20 Red Trillium Studio Tour
Oct 20 Choral Evensong
Oct 26 New Kid in Town
- Linda Hynes — Doing What Comes Naturally
- Laugh Out Loud — Twice!
- Fall Red Trillium Studio Tour
- Amazing Art & Fabulous Food at the 2024 Crown and Pumpkin Studio Tour
- News from The Pews in Merrickville
- For the Love of Music A Concert in Memory of Ann McMahon
- Choral Evensong in Perth
- Almonte in Concert Another Exciting Season of Music
- Drag and Art atthe Textile Museum
- Back-to-School Portraits Raising Funds for the Miss Mills Library